Freedom to Choose: Why Moms Should Prioritize Their Mental Well being This Republic Day

As India celebrates its Republic Day, we honor the ideals of freedom, unity, and progress. But while the nation cherishes its independence, many mothers still find themselves bound by invisible chains—expectations, guilt, and the constant need to put others first. This Republic Day, let's redefine freedom for mothers: the freedom to prioritize their mental wellbeing without guilt or hesitation.

Because when moms thrive, families flourish, and the future of our nation grows stronger.

The Emotional Load of Motherhood

Motherhood is a rewarding journey, but it is also one of the most emotionally taxing. Research shows that 52% of Indian mothers experience anxiety or depression during their motherhood journey, according to a 2022 survey by Momspresso. Additionally, the World Health Organization (WHO) reports that one in five new mothers in India suffers from postpartum depression, a condition that often goes undiagnosed due to stigma and lack of awareness.

Several Indian celebrity mothers have openly shared their struggles with postpartum mental health, helping to raise awareness and normalize conversations around this. Actress Sameera Reddy shared her struggle with PPD after the birth of her first child in 2015, describing feelings of disconnection and a significant impact on her confidence. Esha Deol experienced postpartum depression following the birth of her second daughter, Miraya, in 2019. She spoke about the emotional challenges she faced during this period. Soha Ali Khan has openly discussed experiencing emotional ups and downs, including depression and breakdowns, after the birth of her daughter, Inaaya, in 2017. Kalki Koechlin has even penned a book titled "The Elephant In The Womb," discussing the ups and downs of pregnancy and her experience with postpartum depression after the birth of her daughter, Sappho. Numerous other celebrity mothers globally have openly spoken about postpartum mental health and we are thankful that the conversations are getting the attention it needs! 

These statistics highlight the need for a cultural shift where mothers can talk openly about their mental health challenges and seek support without judgment.

Ignoring mental health can lead to burnout, feelings of inadequacy, and even depression. This emotional weight can become a barrier, not just to personal happiness but to the health of the household. It’s time for mothers to break free from the notion that putting themselves first is selfish. Instead, it's an act of strength and love.

The Right to Self-Care

Self-care is a form of freedom—freedom from guilt, freedom from unrealistic societal expectations, and freedom to care about your own needs. Yet, according to a 2021 report by The Swaddle, 72% of Indian mothers prioritize their family's needs over their own, leaving little to no time for self-care.

But mental wellbeing is not a luxury; it’s a necessity. A happy mom creates a happy home. When moms take care of their mental health:

• They’re more present and emotionally available for their children.
• They become role models, teaching their kids the importance of self-love and balance.
• They prevent burnout and create space for joy in everyday life.

How Moms Can Reclaim Their Freedom

The path to prioritizing mental wellbeing starts with small, intentional changes. These steps are not just about self-care but about reclaiming your identity, energy, and joy as an individual while embracing the beautiful yet demanding journey of motherhood.

1. Carve Out Time for Yourself

In the whirlwind of caring for others, taking time for yourself often feels like a luxury. But it’s a necessity. Even a few moments of uninterrupted time can rejuvenate your mind and spirit.

• Start Small: Begin with 10–15 minutes a day. Whether it’s sipping tea, journaling, reading a book, or meditating, these pockets of time help restore balance.
• Protect Your Boundaries: Communicate with your family about your need for "me-time." For example, let them know that mornings or evenings are your quiet times to recharge.
• Mindfulness Practice: A simple mindfulness exercise—like focusing on your breath for a few minutes—can help reduce stress and improve focus.

Tip: Schedule this time as non-negotiable, just like any other important appointment.

2. Seek Support

Motherhood can sometimes feel isolating, but you’re never alone. Seeking support—whether from friends, family, or professional networks—can make a world of difference.

• Join Communities: Parenting groups, both online and offline, provide a safe space to share experiences, seek advice, and find encouragement. 98 % mothers reported that being part of our zactive mom community reduced feelings of loneliness. 
• Talk to Professionals: There’s no shame in reaching out to a therapist or counselor. Mental health support equips you with tools to navigate stress and emotional challenges effectively.
• The Power of Connection: Studies show that mothers who engage in regular social interaction or join support groups are 35% less likely to experience isolation-related depression.

Remember: Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s an act of strength and self-love.

3. Say No Without Guilt

Mothers often feel compelled to say "yes" to every request or responsibility, but this can lead to overwhelm and exhaustion. Learning to say "no" is a critical skill for preserving your mental wellbeing.

• Prioritize Your Energy: Focus on tasks and commitments that align with your values and energy levels. Let go of obligations that drain you or aren’t truly necessary.
• Practice Polite Refusals: A simple, “I’d love to, but I can’t right now,” is enough. You don’t owe anyone a detailed explanation.
• Let Go of Perfection: It’s okay if the house isn’t spotless or if dinner isn’t a three-course meal. Your worth isn’t tied to how much you can do in a day. Saying "no" to others is often saying "yes" to yourself.

4. Wear What Makes You Comfortable

Your clothing is more than just fabric—it’s a reflection of how you feel about yourself. Wearing clothes that are both comfortable and confidence-boosting can positively impact your mood and energy.

• Choose Comfort and Style: Opt for maternity or nursing-friendly outfits that allow you to move freely and feel at ease, especially during this transitional phase of life.
• Celebrate Your Journey: Your body has been through incredible changes. Embrace clothes that make you feel proud of your motherhood journey, whether it’s flowy dresses, chic kurtis, or cozy loungewear.
• Feel-Good Factor: When you feel good in what you’re wearing, it’s easier to focus on the day ahead without being distracted by discomfort.

5. Celebrate Small Wins

Motherhood is filled with challenges, but it’s also brimming with moments of triumph—big and small. Recognizing and celebrating these moments can shift your mindset and boost your confidence.

• Acknowledge Your Efforts: Made it through a tough day? Managed to squeeze in a workout or read a chapter of your favorite book? These are victories worth celebrating.
• Journal Your Achievements: Keeping a gratitude or achievement journal helps you reflect on and appreciate the good moments in your day.
• Teach Gratitude to Your Kids: Celebrating small wins isn’t just for you—it’s a valuable lesson for your children, teaching them to find joy in everyday accomplishments.

Share Your Story!

Today’s moms are breaking stereotypes, refusing to fit into rigid molds of perfection. They’re embracing their individuality, speaking up about mental health, and challenging the status quo.

According to a 2023 survey by The Asian Parent, 84% of Indian mothers believe that focusing on their mental health has positively impacted their parenting style. This shows how important it is for moms to reclaim their mental space and emotional well-being.

This Republic Day, let’s honor this new wave of motherhood—bold, free, and unapologetically authentic. Tell us in the comments one small step you’re taking for your mental wellbeing this Republic Day. We’d love to celebrate you!